I fell out with one of my teenage best friend years ago and
I still, to this day, hold a grudge, however I suspect she doesn’t even know
about it or care!! So why do I?
I grew up in a fairly small village where you only mixed
with other people from the village, none of us were old enough to drive, the
bus would arrive once a day but not always come back so we were stuck. We all
went to school together and all spent our spare time together.
As a teenager, my parents were really aware of how bored we
were in the village so they set up a scout group for us and we all loved it. It
gave us experiences and memories that we would have never not got anywhere
else, but to offer us this group it took my parents time. They devoted time to
us, they would pick us all up and take us off to do things like den building,
archery and shooting amongst a whole load of other things.
So when one of my best friends, slagged off and was really
rude about my parents, I instantly took it to heart. I couldn’t forgive her. At
the time, it broke my heart and I actually cut her from my life. I felt I didn’t
need that. My parents had done everything for me and my brother and the fact
they weren’t appreciated for their efforts was devastating.
She often tried to make contact when our lives would cross
but I kept myself away her. I didn’t need her; however she always smiled and
waved and made an effort.
Over the years, my life moved on and I moved out of the
village, I grew up but whenever I see her I remember that I can’t forgive her,
however I can’t actually remember what was said!! Lol It is ridiculous!! Why
can I not get over it?
I recently mentioned it to some friends whilst out for a few
drinks and they laughed at me and I felt even more ridiculous but I thought
about it when I got home and I still don’t think I can get over it, I just can’t
forgive her.
Surely I can’t be the only one who has held a long term grudge
and still can’t actually remember what was said!!
#grumpy #unforgiven #feud #themummymonster #blogger
Do you still see her? I didn’t fall out with my friends (no arguments) but they pretty much all ditched me when I had my son at 18. I now see one of them quite regularly and I spoke to her for her to say that she didn’t realise I’d had a child back then. It soon became apparent that if we were to meet now that we wouldn’t be friends. We kind of acknowledge each other from afar but that’s as far as it will go. No grudges. Hope you figure it out x
ReplyDeleteI don't really hold grudges, i find it takes too much effort lol! Do you think you may be holding on to the grudge as you haven't had closure? Would it be worth meeting this old friend and telling her why it made you so angry? I am sure you had good memories with this person too. You never know you may be still good friends if the grudge was gone.
ReplyDeleteThat is such a shame and a really difficult thing to experience. I can hold grudges sometimes too but I dont think it's good for us and really we are the only ones that suffer for it! Hope you learn to let go of it soon.
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